By Guest Contributor

If you have been dumped by an ex boyfriend and want to win them back then here are 3 quick and easy steps that you can use to make it happen.

There are entire books written about this subject, trust me it doesn’t have to be so complicated, just follow these steps, especially #1 and you should do well!

Step 1 – The Breakup: this is so important that you should be reading and memorizing this even if you still have a boyfriend! When your ex breaks the news to you, then immediately agree with them, stay upbeat and do not cry; the best would be to try to turn the situation around and agree with them so much that its almost like you are dumping them, point out why it would have never worked, etc. – but no personal attacks;say we can be friends, this is for the best, stay upbeat! Sound hard? Yes, this is extremely hard to pull off, but you can walk away from this situation with your ex missing you wondering what the hell just happened. Things to convey during the breakup conversation: I have a life without you, I am busy having fun and don’t need you, I had great plans for this or that next week – oh well I guess Ill take another friend with me – don’t specify what sex your friend is either. Lastly keep this whole exchange as short as possible, you should be the one walking away first.

Step 2 – Have Fun: You are going to try to get your ex back – per the next step, but you need to move on with your life in the meantime and to play it cool. So have fun! Join a gym and workout to help with depression, go on meetup.com and join a club, or even travel so you have a story to tell your ex of all the fun you had on vacation without them! Once you are busy with all of your new activities you may actually find that you don’t miss your ex anymore, or maybe you’ll even meet someone better.. but if after all of this you still want them back, move along to step 3!

Step 3 – The Call: You do need to contact your ex, but how long should you leave it before you do get in touch? If you contact him too early you will run the risk of looking needy and pushy. But if you leave it too long, he could think you have moved on with your life and she may start to do the same. You should wait between 4 to 6 weeks before contacting an ex. Initial contact should be by phone and should be kept brief – if they answer don’t talk more than a minute, make sure to sound upbeat and happy with your new life. If you call and they don’t answer, then hangup and don’t leave a message, wait at least 3 more days before calling again so as not to appear desperate; when you call for the 2nd time, if they don’t answer leave a short upbeat message – this is your last shot, if they don’t respond, you cannot call again after this or you will appear desperate and it will probably never work.

Again, whether your ex boyfriend responds to step 3 has a lot to do with the initial breakup and how you played that, in step 1. If you are reading this article you may already have broken up and screwed up step 1 royally – you cried, texted them 10 times that night, etc. – if this is the case you may have to compensate by waiting even longer on step 3 – perhaps 6-8 weeks, that is really your only chance at partial redemption.

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By Guest Contributor

Sometimes relationships seem to end without warning and other times they seem to slowly disintegrate. Regardless of how the break up happens it is likely that at least one of the partners involved will have regrets. The regrets may be over the break up itself or things that led up to the event. For many, the only goal they have after a break up is mending the problems. Contrary to what you may believe, in more than 90 percent of all cases you really can get your ex back, but you have to use a sensible approach.

I will explain what I mean by sensible. First, you probably feel devastated right now. This is a natural response to a break up, especially if the deterioration of the relationship seemed sudden. I used the word seemed because in retrospect you may see that there were signs of the relationship losing its potency but you missed them along the way.

Take Care of Yourself
Initially you will need to take care of you before you can move forward. I always suggest that you take the time needed to adjust to the break up. I am referring to the loss of your significant other. It is natural to feel sadness, to cry, or to even go through a phase of depression. The key is to set a limit on this. In most cases three to seven days is plenty of time for that.

This does not mean that you will not continue to feel sad but you have to move forward. During your sad phase you may find that you want to spend time alone. Some people miss work and basically hibernate during this period. Obviously that is not the healthiest response for you. Instead it is advisable that you find friends to spend time with or at least get involved in a hobby.

After your adjustment phase you should take time to focus on you. I realize that it seems as though your relationship and a make up is being ignored right now but it really isn’t. You essentially are working on improving yourself, which will make you a stronger and more interesting person. In reality, some people find that after working on themselves they do not want to be involved in a relationship right away.

Regardless of that this period will give you time to think about the relationship and make rational decisions. By taking the time to think and evaluate the interactions between you and your ex you can better determine if the relationship was a healthy one that is worth pursuing.

How to Get Your Ex Back
If you decide that getting your ex back is still your goal then it is time to begin working on that. You might begin with a planned accidental meeting or with a short phone call. If you talk by phone, cut it short less than a few minutes, you need to portray that you are busy and have a fun life to get back too! Let your ex to know that you are involved with your new hobby and/or that you are now busy with your friends.

The purpose behind that is so your ex will know that you are a strong enough person to move forward. I am not a big advocate of playing hard to get but being self-sufficient will add to your attraction. After all, you really do not want to get your ex back based on pity or guilt. A relationship based on those grounds will not last.

So the key message if you decide to get your ex back, is use psychology, you need to portray yourself as being wanted by others, busy with all kinds of fun great things, and independent – you don’t NEED them; if you portray these things not only in the relationship, but after it ends, your chances of getting your ex back will be much greater.

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