By Guest Contributor

Can you tell from conversation, behavior, or observations when a guy you are dating is likely to commit? What is it that lets you know that the wonderful fella you are falling for is willing and able to commit to a solid, loving, long-term relationship?

Selfishness is a Red Flag

At 42, Charlene has dated plenty of men. Though she’s been ready to settle down for several years, she’s discovered that finding the right man is more challenging than she ever imagined.

I can usually tell a man is not ready [for commitment] by his behavior. I usually can tell he is not ready if he is selfish in his action… if it is all about him all the time. I feel that anyone that is selfish could not be ready for a relationship which requires giving of yourself, your time, energy and heart. That person only has the ability to love themselves, and no one else. A selfish acting man is always looking for the next best thing and will eventually leave for greener pastures. He wants to get more than what he is getting now.

Roaming Eyes Make Her See Clearly

La’Raine works in the Washington, D.C. area and meets attractive, professional men just about every day. She is still single at 37 and also finds dating to be a disappointing experience.

I have been told that I am a nice looking woman, but I have noticed men have roaming eyes. No matter how nice the women they are with looks! When I am talking to guy and he is looking around at every woman that pass by, that lets me know he is not totally focused on me.

And I believe that if a man is ready to commit to you he will show it in the time he spends with you. He will call often and take an interest in your life; he makes an investment in you. I learned the hard way that when a guy you are dating has trouble defining the relationship (i.e., he always introduces the woman who thinks they’re really dating romantically as his friend, his co-worker, his neighbor, etc. and never uses the “girlfriend” identifier, this is a problem. And he is not ready to give himself totally.

A List of 10 Non-Committal Male Behaviors

A woman can easily fantasize having a relationship with someone, and assume that because they have no reservations of committing to that gentleman they are making a mature decision. That is a false assumption.

Women are often so hungry for love and a relationship that they allow their fantasies of a perfect love to blind them to reality.

10 Most common behaviors exhibited by a man totally uninterested in commitment.

Behavior 1. He pulls back when you express a desire for more. He may use excuses like being hurt before, work, school, ex, children, etc.;

Behavior 2. He tends to be defensive and vague about details of his life when you ask basic types of “getting to know you” questions.

Behavior 3. Other aspects of his life always take priority over you. You may be stood up, not called if he is going to be late, or dates get canceled at the last minute;

Behavior 4. He puts little work into the relationship. He doesn’t call, take you out, voluntarily spend time with you. It seems like you are doing all the work to keep the relationship going.

Behavior 5. Sets his life up so that there is no room for you in it; except when he wants something from you.

Behavior 6. You find yourself telling him the same things over and over. It’s like he is absent-minded or just doesn’t care to remember who you are and what you are all about.

Behavior 7. Isn’t available or only available for a short time on special occasions or holidays.

Behavior 8. He’s charming and fun to be around, but your relationship lacks depth. You feel that you don’t really know him, even after several months “together.”

Behavior 9. He is always involved with several women (his “friends”) or overlapping relationships. He tends to go back and forth to a comfortable ex who places no demands on him for more.

Behavior 10. You catch him in little white lies frequently… his stories just don’t match because he forgets what he told you the week before.

When He Just Doesn’t Want What You Want

Single women must accept the fact that there are some men that just won’t commit to anyone. No matter how wonderful, accomplished, loving and beautiful a woman is, he dances away to start the whole dating/fall in love/run away sequence with woman after woman.

Other men do want a commitment, but just haven’t met THE woman that inspires him to be committed. When a man is truly smitten, he gives his commitment voluntarily – you don’t have to ask for it.

I suggest that all women get clear on exactly why they are seeking a commitment. Be clear on exactly what commitment means to you, and why you insist on a commitment from THIS man.

If you would like dating advice from a relationship expert, consider calling a Love Psychic today by visiting The Psychic Line or Calling 1-800-966-2294

On a recent interview with professional matchmaker Suzanne Oshima on yourtango.com, matchmaker Suzanne Oshima gives some excellent advice telling you what to do and what NOT to do when dating.

What dating tips do you have for people looking for their “match”?

Suzanne Oshima: It really depends on each individual person and what method he or she feels most comfortable using. The following must be taken into account for each person:

1. [Are you] just looking to date, or [are you] looking for a relationship?
If [you are] just looking to date, online dating and speed dating are great ways to meet someone; however, if [you are] looking for a long-term relationship, it can sometimes be more effective to work with a matchmaker [or Love Psychic!]. A matchmaker will give personal attention to detail [and] take into account what someone is looking for both physically and psychologically and your past relationships to find the perfect match. It’s not to say you can’t find a long-term relationship on an online dating site; however, the two issues I see over and over again with online dating is that people do not always tell the truth. Sometimes it can take several dates and a great deal of time to find out the truth.

2. What’s your budget?
If you have a limited budget, online dating and speed dating are great, inexpensive ways to find your match. However, if you have a limited amount of free time and would like to be catered to, have everything taken care of for you and budget is not an issue, then hiring a matchmaker may be the way to go.

3. How much free time does the person have to dedicate to looking?
Online dating can be a very effective way to find a date if you are willing to spend the time searching through profiles, reading profiles and e-mailing. Speed dating is great because you can meet a lot of people in a short amount of time. Nevertheless, with speed dating, because there is a limited amount of time, you may not find out key factors about the person until later. If you are a busy person and don’t have a lot of time, hiring a professional matchmaker can save you a lot of time … Overall, if you are single right now, there has never been a better time to date and find your match. There are so many options to choose from today, and no longer are any of them considered taboo.

What should people keep in mind on a first date?

Suzanne Oshima: Here are some good things and red flags to watch out for on a first date.

• Appearance—if the person didn’t make an effort to look nice and attractive for the first date, then it’s an indicator of how that person is, and it’s probably only going to get worse as time goes on.
• Sense of humor—someone who can laugh at a joke or laugh at him/herself. No one wants someone who is so serious about life.
• Good manners—people are usually on their best behavior when they are on a first date, so if his/her manners are lacking, it probably will only get worse as time goes on.
• Interests and passions—while it’s important to have similar passions, it’s also good to have some different interests.
• Chemistry—either physical or psychological chemistry is important, but it doesn’t have to be “knock-your-socks-off” chemistry on the first date. Sometimes chemistry takes time to develop. Great conversation—a conversation that is not one-sided.
• Good listener—someone who is genuinely interested in what you have to say and is engaged.
• Flexibility—someone who is flexible and can compromise.
• Argumentative about a subject or can’t compromise and see your point of view (especially on a first date!).
• Bad manners.
• If your date keeps looking around at everyone else in the bar/restaurant when you are talking.
• If he/she keeps talking about an ex.
• He/she constantly complains, is negative or bitter.

While those are some good things and red flags to watch out for on a first date, it’s important to take into account that everyone is nervous on first date. So unless the person was outright despicable, sometimes it’s important to go on a second date to see if you both are truly compatible.

We think Suzanne has given some excellent tips and even better Red Flags to look for on that first date. If you would like dating advice from a relationship expert, consider calling a Love Psychic today by visiting The Psychic Line or Calling 1-800-966-2294

This is a short video by Australian Author and Astrologer Nellie McKinley who uses the astrological cycles for not only predictions, but also relationship guidance. Nellie’s passion is relationship counselling and couple compatibility. She also specialises in assisting parents through child chart analysis. She has written a book on the subject of relationships called “Astrology: A Compatibility Guide”.

She has appeared in publications such as the Gold Coast Bulletin, Sunday Mail and For Me magazine and is often contacted by various newspapers for comment on astrological matters.

She has been a weekly guest on ABC Radio and is currently a regular weekly guest with Marea Lambert Barker on ‘The Love Lounge‘ (92.5 Gold FM), around Australia. Prior to this she was a guest with Dani Torrensan on the Nitemix on the same station.

By Guest Contributor

Here are 6 men with particular characteristic that you should consider seriously while dating. Try to avoid these men!

Man to Avoid #1 prefers spending time at gym and talk about his workouts most of the time. He has a life time membership at this gym. He has all the latest gadgets and home entertainment systems. Most probably, in such relationship, you will never see him as he is always down at the gym. He will spend more time in the bathroom then you do.

Man to Avoid #2 wants, and in fact, insists you to spend every waking moment with him, refusing to let you go out for yourself or spend any significant amount of time with anyone else. Any kind of your suggestion or explanation of his or your need of spending time with friends and families will only bring up argument in which you would have to prove your love for him may be 100 times. Remember, if you can’t have a little independence in your relationship, it’s never going to last.

Man to Avoid #3 always wants to be the center of everyone’s attention, no matter where or with whom you are. In order to get this attention, he may use one or many of the following techniques: talking excessively or may be too loud, wildly gesturing, telling unbelievable stories, or one or the other thing.

Man to Avoid #4 is mamma’s boy who either lives with her and if not that pop in for tea every other day and goes for Sunday dinner. She is the one who helps him out with almost everything. His mom is the best person and the perfect one in the whole world. Having such a partner will bring up one problem, you will never live up to his mother and although he will love and cherish you forever he will take his mother’s side every time. Time and again he will keep comparing you to his mom, no matter what you have done for him.

Man to Avoid #5 always treats you like a princess and is the perfect lover for you. He dresses well and is out to impress every woman he comes in contact with. He will, of course, have trouble remembering your name, with all the women he has on the go. He will have all the excuses for not showing up. You will have to compete with his phone as he has so many calls to return and text messages to answer.

Man to Avoid #6 is a workaholic and is so much in love with his work. He is going places, but will he be taking you with him? He is always smartly dressed, has great taste in decor and eats at the finest restaurants. However, his work will always come first. May be you have to make an appointment to see him. He will take you to elegant dinner parties then leave you with strangers while he talks shop.

It’s not all black and white. There could be men who has more than one of the above traits but could still turn out to be a great partner. There could be men who have any of the traits and can be even worse, but after talking about it, he overcomes it and could become a wonderful partner.

You should simply watch out for the types of men that take things to the extreme and make you miserable. And see if there is any possible chance of improving it. A successful relationship is one where both the partners understand, respect, care, appreciate and love each other.

If you are still confused or would like more in-depth help in your relationship or dating life, consider speaking with a Love Psychic by calling one of Paramount Solutions quality phone psychic readers as seen on their link below; their readers can help your relationship move in the right direction!

An English Pop Singer of Atomic Kitten and Actress Kerry Katona recently saw a psychic fortune teller to help her in the quest of finding the perfect partner.

As reported by sify.com, “Weirdly, I went to see a clairvoyant when I split with Mark Croft and she said I’d end up with a guy in the business with a name beginning with ‘P’. I’m still waiting,” dailystar.co.uk quoted her as saying.

The 29-year-old, who has been married twice, split from her first husband Brian McFadden in 2006. Following year, she married taxi-driver Mark Croft, but separated from him too early this year.

The singer was recently linked with painter and decorator Adam Waldron, 33. Since that relationship ended in July, she has appeared desperate for a man, even making online appeals on Facebook.

She has also been linked to kick-boxer Scott Gibson, 29, after they met on a lonely hearts website.

“Kerry isn’t looking for a serious relationship. She’s having fun, concentrating on the kids and keeping her options open at the moment. She’s in no hurry to find a bloke, but is chuffed that the clairvoyant told her she’ll meet someone,” said a source.

Dating is not easy; let’s face it: When we’re out in the world and in the dating scene, we try to present ourselves in the best light possible. After all, we are sifting for gold, right? The goal in searching for gold is to attract our ideal partner. Wanting to show ourselves at our best is only natural. We don’t want to make faux-pas or mistakes, and we don’t want to embarrass ourselves or bring attention to our less than desirable traits. We put our best foot forward, and this can be a great way to attract the type of potential partner we’d like to have.

Being the kind of person that resembles the kind of person you’d like to attract can go a long way to finding the perfect partner for a long-term relationship. Opposites attract, but birds of a feather flock together. Here’s how that idea works:

If you like someone who is well groomed, the best way to attract that is to groom yourself nicely. If you want someone who loves sports and is active, show your penchant for physical activities and talk about the sport you love best. If you’re truly a person that likes someone who is quiet and caring, forget trying to be upbeat and exciting. Display what it really is that you want in a mate, and you’ll soon find that you have the perfect person for a relationship sitting across from you.

If you’re seeking to find someone that will be compatible with you and your lifestyle for a long-term relationship, it’s important to reflect an image of what you’re looking for. But keep in mind that while opposites attract, two people at different ends of the spectrum usually don’t have successful relationships. Someone who is completely different from you may be interesting for a short while and you could be contemplating a potential relationship, but two opposites end up fizzling out after the novelty wears off.

Be the kind of person that you’d like to attract . If you know what your needs and requirements are in choosing a mate, you are better equipped to recognize a them when you meet them.. If you’ve been in many relationships that have lowered your self-esteem, take time to work on yourself until you feel better about being you. When you do meet a person that you want to know better, it is easier to be confident and positive if you have already taken care of your emotional baggage from past relationships. It will be easier to mingle and meet new people. Others will be drawn to you who are confident and positive as well.

Be sure to be realistic though never try to portray someone you aren’t, deep down in your heart, you’re leading someone else into a relationship built on lies. There’s a fine line between being the type of person you want to attract and giving such a false impression that you’re setting the relationship up for failure from the start.

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By Guest Contributor

Another chapter and a new journey begins after saying your “I do’s.” But staying happy during the journey is not like ‘one size, fits all’ notion. It is not a matter of how much love there is at the beginning, what matters is how much love you have cultivated along the way. To be happy in a relationship is never an easy task. There are rules you follow, principles to abide and there are things you must have to maintain a happy relationship with the one you choose to be with in your lifetime.

TRAIT 1: Love

Enough love for oneself could lead to leakage of that love towards your partner. It will be a radiating kind of love. I’ve always believed that you can never truly love another without learning to love yourself first. In order to be happy in a relationship, this love should be cultivated, nourished and fed. Otherwise, the seed you planted will not be able to grow. It is a kind of love that will have the power to move mountains and will overcome whatever comes your way.

TRAIT 2: Giving

By this I don’t mean material things. I would mean to give selflessly, putting oneself a second priority and have that of your partner first. Staying happy in a relationship would depend most on how each person gives and on how each person interacts in that two-way street. To put one’s partner’s needs on top priority is I think a gift that not everyone is fortunate to have. When both parties mastered this, it is easier for them to meet halfway.

TRAIT 3: Time

Time is the only element to prove one’s love. Time is also the one who has the power to make or break any relationship. If you have so much love in your heart but can’t give time to show it, it is rather empty and useless. Time is the best thing you can give to your partner. Just by staying for a few minutes listening to your partner’s musings is already bliss.

TRAIT 4: Communication

Establishing a good communication with your partner could lead to a happy and fulfilled relationship. Once you have mastered the art of communication, the pieces will just fall back to their places. Communication does not only involve talking but also more importantly, listening.

TRAIT 5: Honesty

One attribute of a person that can make up or destroy certain relationship is honesty. Being able to go up front and say the truth is I think the very thing that needs courage and discipline the most. This is because being honest involves huge risks. It involves the risk of total rejection. But once you are past that stage, things will become easier.

TRAIT 6: Trust

It is important in a relationship to have trust. It is the kind of trust that never falters. It is the kind of trust that you know your partner loves you. One caution though, too much trust could also break. Human frailty is the obstacle for trusting too much.

TRAIT 7: Understanding

When all has been said and done, the only thing left would be “understanding’. If you have this then there will be no doubt you can maintain a happy relationship. This will stand out alone. If you don’t understand then all efforts done to make the relationship intact is futile. Both party needs to compromise.

For valuable insight on how you can improve your relationship, you may want to consider speaking with a “quality” Phone Psychic Reader. Talking to a Psychic Reader is like having a peep at your own future, and will help you to realize if you and your partner are a good fit or if it is time to move on. If you know what lies ahead, then you will be able to make the right decisions. If you’re a woman and you need relationship advice, you have to make sure that you get it only from the best source – and that would be from the expert who understands you, your relationship, the people around you, and everything else that lies ahead.

By Guest Contributor

Getting divorced is hard any most people that have to go through it. It is a time that is considered very sensitive for most. This is not something that many people look forward to and in fact it can be something that is very disruptive to their lives. This is especially true when it comes to dealing with the in laws.

When you are dealing with the divorce and all the family members that you are now going to be divided from, you will have to take a well thought out approach to it. You may or may not be having a good relationship with them. It is hard to figure out what you are able to do and what is right. You need to dig down deep inside yourself and figure out what type of person you are going to be.

BE FRIENDLY
If your in laws have never done anything wrong to you, you owe them respect. You do not need to sever your ties with them just because you and your ex do not get along anymore. In fact, many people still see their in laws on a regular basis because of children that are involved or just because they have a special relationship with them. You do not have to make this time a difficult one and in fact it can be good for everyone involved.

COMMUNICATE
You should make sure that you are communicating with your in laws right from the start. If you have a good relationship make sure that you are expressing your love towards them. You want to them to know that you still value their love and you still want to be part of their lives. You need to make them aware that you have no intentions on ending the relationship with them just because you and your ex cannot stay married.

END THE RELATIONSHIP
If you are someone that has a rough and rocky relationship with your in laws it may be better to end the relationship at least to some degree. You may still have to see them from time to time especially if you have children that they need to keep in contact with, but you do not have to make the visits long or get too involved with the meetings. You can simply consider them acquaintances and you will not have to waste your time trying to be nice to someone that you do not like.

DIVORCE ON GOOD TERMS
You will see when you are in the middle of a divorce that most of the time the other person’s family is on their side. However, in some cases, you may not have to worry about this problem. You may be able to have a fair and calm divorce and this will allow everyone to remain friends. This is something that is definitely a good thing when it is achieved and it is something that will make both families a little more at ease for all types of family functions.

YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN COME FIRST
You need to keep your best interest at heart and the interest of your children as well. If you do have children and you are getting divorced, you need to make sure that you are not taking them from their grandparents and extended family. They did nothing wrong and do not deserve to be punished for any reason. However in some cases, it is no a good idea for the children to be around the in laws. You have to make sure that you know the facts and keep in mind what is best for everyone. You will see that when you do this and if you do make an effort, you will have less tension and live a more peaceful life.

For valuable insight on how to move on and make the right decisions after a divorce, you may want to consider speaking with a “quality” Phone Psychic Reader. Talking to a Psychic Reader is like having a peep at your own future, and will help you to realize if the divorce was the right decision for you and your partner. If you know what lies ahead, then you will be able to make the right decisions. If you’re a woman and you need relationship advice, you have to make sure that you get it only from the best source – and that would be from the expert who understands you, your relationship, the people around you, and everything else that lies ahead.

Great video showcasing the talents of one of the worlds top ‘Love Psychics’ Jill Dahne (we apologize for the video quality – we do not host videos).

Jill Dahne is one of the world’s top ‘Love Psychics’ having predicted over 750 marriages; and, in 1992 predicted on television that in 1998 President Clinton would be involved in a sex scandal. She also predicted his Election and Re-election.

From her website bio:

Folklore has it that psychic ability is hereditary. Jill Dahne is living proof. As the daughter of renowned psychic, Micki Dahne, Jill has demonstrated a world class ability of her own.

When a young school girl, Jill was sent home early for telling the teachers what they were going to write before they wrote it. At the age of thirteen, Jill predicted, on radio, a terrorist attack one month before it occurred. Currently, Jill Dahne is listed as the #1 Love Psychic in “100 Top Psychics in America” and the Most Amazing Teenage Psychic in America in “Ripleys Believe it or Not”.

Named one of the top 5 psychics by Woman’s Own Magazine and American Woman’s Magazine, she has also been written up by the “Miami Herald”, the “Baltimore News”, the “National Enquirer”, the “Globe”, the “Star”, and a host of other publications.

By Guest Contributor

Are you married, in a long term relationship, or just starting out in a relationship, and wondering what your strengths and challenges are in your relationship? Do you wonder if this is the person who is your soulmate, or if your heart will be broken again?

Astrology is an amazing esoteric science. And it has many answers to these questions.

If you are married.
If you are married, or about to be married, and you’re curious to know what areas in your marriage are the most harmonious, and which areas will possibly cause you some stress, astrology has some answers. There are harmonious aspects between your natal planets that indicate areas that run smoothly, joyfully, and harmoniously. Then there are challenging aspects between your natal planets that indicate areas within your relationship that will be a source of stress. By knowing these areas of harmony and stress, you can help your relationship be the kind of relationship you truly desire. As they say, “to be forewarned is to be forearmed”. So being armed with astrological information can be sort of a guide to your relationship.

Recently met someone.
If you have recently met someone, or you are in a relationship, and you are hoping that this is “the one”, or your hoping that this is not another one destined for heartbreak, you need to check your interaspects to Chiron. Chiron’s harmonious aspects to Venus, Jupiter, and Neptune hold the promise of a long term relationship and can indicate whether this person is your “soulmate”. However, challenging aspects from Saturn hold a strong possibility of heartbreak sooner or later.

Want to get married.
If you want to get married and you are wondering if this person is the marrying type or is a commitment phobe, check his/her natal aspects that help to indicate these personality types.

Check your long-term compatibility using Astrology.

The composite chart is also something to look at to indicate long term compatibility. This chart represents the relationship itself. It will show you what emotional and circumstantial elements will be present in a long term or committed relationship. You might change your mind when you read this !

Difficult aspects between the personal planets – Sun, Moon, and Venus, to the planets Saturn, Uranus, and Pluto could spell trouble. I nearly guarantee when you read this part of a compatibility report you’ll recognize the “symptoms”. Hope that there’s more harmonious aspects with Venus and Jupiter to counter balance these !

If however, you haven’t walked down the aisle yet and would like to, there are many areas in astrology that will assist your quest for relationship information.

Look to the progressed charts and transits to discover the years where you are most likely to become married, engaged, or commit to a long term relationship. There are even indicators of when there’s a possible wedding month or engagement – just look to the progressed Moon and Part of Fortune.

There is so much wonderful information you can derive from astrology’s tools, to help you make the best decisions for your relationship and for yourself. All it takes is a little time and the desire to make your relationship the best it can be, know your areas of difficulty, and find out ways to make them work.

Astrology will also help you to determine if this is the relationship for you. Why waste time on heartache, when, with a little investigation you can prevent it ! or hold on to your love because this one has a strong probability for long term commitment.

So wouldn’t it be great to have a guidebook on your relationship ? Astrology is the closest thing you’ll get to providing you with the most personal information that reflects this particular relationship, your particular relationship.