By Guest Contributor

Can you tell from conversation, behavior, or observations when a guy you are dating is likely to commit? What is it that lets you know that the wonderful fella you are falling for is willing and able to commit to a solid, loving, long-term relationship?

Selfishness is a Red Flag

At 42, Charlene has dated plenty of men. Though she’s been ready to settle down for several years, she’s discovered that finding the right man is more challenging than she ever imagined.

I can usually tell a man is not ready [for commitment] by his behavior. I usually can tell he is not ready if he is selfish in his action… if it is all about him all the time. I feel that anyone that is selfish could not be ready for a relationship which requires giving of yourself, your time, energy and heart. That person only has the ability to love themselves, and no one else. A selfish acting man is always looking for the next best thing and will eventually leave for greener pastures. He wants to get more than what he is getting now.

Roaming Eyes Make Her See Clearly

La’Raine works in the Washington, D.C. area and meets attractive, professional men just about every day. She is still single at 37 and also finds dating to be a disappointing experience.

I have been told that I am a nice looking woman, but I have noticed men have roaming eyes. No matter how nice the women they are with looks! When I am talking to guy and he is looking around at every woman that pass by, that lets me know he is not totally focused on me.

And I believe that if a man is ready to commit to you he will show it in the time he spends with you. He will call often and take an interest in your life; he makes an investment in you. I learned the hard way that when a guy you are dating has trouble defining the relationship (i.e., he always introduces the woman who thinks they’re really dating romantically as his friend, his co-worker, his neighbor, etc. and never uses the “girlfriend” identifier, this is a problem. And he is not ready to give himself totally.

A List of 10 Non-Committal Male Behaviors

A woman can easily fantasize having a relationship with someone, and assume that because they have no reservations of committing to that gentleman they are making a mature decision. That is a false assumption.

Women are often so hungry for love and a relationship that they allow their fantasies of a perfect love to blind them to reality.

10 Most common behaviors exhibited by a man totally uninterested in commitment.

Behavior 1. He pulls back when you express a desire for more. He may use excuses like being hurt before, work, school, ex, children, etc.;

Behavior 2. He tends to be defensive and vague about details of his life when you ask basic types of “getting to know you” questions.

Behavior 3. Other aspects of his life always take priority over you. You may be stood up, not called if he is going to be late, or dates get canceled at the last minute;

Behavior 4. He puts little work into the relationship. He doesn’t call, take you out, voluntarily spend time with you. It seems like you are doing all the work to keep the relationship going.

Behavior 5. Sets his life up so that there is no room for you in it; except when he wants something from you.

Behavior 6. You find yourself telling him the same things over and over. It’s like he is absent-minded or just doesn’t care to remember who you are and what you are all about.

Behavior 7. Isn’t available or only available for a short time on special occasions or holidays.

Behavior 8. He’s charming and fun to be around, but your relationship lacks depth. You feel that you don’t really know him, even after several months “together.”

Behavior 9. He is always involved with several women (his “friends”) or overlapping relationships. He tends to go back and forth to a comfortable ex who places no demands on him for more.

Behavior 10. You catch him in little white lies frequently… his stories just don’t match because he forgets what he told you the week before.

When He Just Doesn’t Want What You Want

Single women must accept the fact that there are some men that just won’t commit to anyone. No matter how wonderful, accomplished, loving and beautiful a woman is, he dances away to start the whole dating/fall in love/run away sequence with woman after woman.

Other men do want a commitment, but just haven’t met THE woman that inspires him to be committed. When a man is truly smitten, he gives his commitment voluntarily – you don’t have to ask for it.

I suggest that all women get clear on exactly why they are seeking a commitment. Be clear on exactly what commitment means to you, and why you insist on a commitment from THIS man.

If you would like dating advice from a relationship expert, consider calling a Love Psychic today by visiting The Psychic Line or Calling 1-800-966-2294

By: Guest Contributor

If you are facing some serious problems with your dating relationships, as well as very tough choices and decisions to make – even if more so about those things that affect your intimate future. Going for a psychic reading for your dating issues can make you romance and life have a clearer direction and attitude towards life.

Not many people are that familiar with any psychic reading for dating and romance advice, as well as the expectation that come with it. You must know the kind of expectations to expect before you can delve in this kind of affair, through preparation of your question and having more realistic goals to go with it. It really doesn’t matter what dating, relationships or marriage questions you have, there is no psychic that is right always, while a psychic who claims to have the truth all the time lacks in genuineness.

The facts is that many individuals are always not honest with their questions, and what they are doing is to make things harder in all spheres for the psychic reader and he cannot really give you that accurate reading that you are after. Incase you withhold any information or you fail to be honest you will just make the psychic to find it hard to connect with your inner energy, which defines the dating, relationships and other questions that you might have. Be honest in your queries and straightforward in the kind of question you ask.

The psychic reading has the answer for all your questions where it is possible to give you an idea of what could be happening if you trek along the same path in your life. What the psychic would not be able to do is giving you any advice or what to do.

Psychics might not give you the kind of advice that you might need on how to go about certain situations other than to say to you about the things that might happen. It generally comes down to you to make your mind on the kind of actions you want to take so that you can avoid or make a confirmation of any issue, from dating to finance, that is related to your query.

The psychics lacks the ability to make use of the abilities that they have to affect anybody, from bringing back that lost love or dating relationship that is long gone, or sinister, put a spell or a curse on anybody.

A true psychic will in no certain terms can connect with that energy that you have to be able to read the things that might happen in the days and years to come. The problem is that there are usually so many fake psychics in the world who are always claiming that they are able to cast hexes, bringing back the lost love or be able to bring any effect to different people. Be on your toes. The strategic thing is to know what you want to be read for you. If it is dating, then let it be so.